"Hi, Mishé Events! I've recently gotten engaged! I was very excited about planning my wedding until I started thinking about my dress search. I am overweight and my mom and sisters all said I need to lose quite a bit of weight before I start shopping for my gown so that I look beautiful on my wedding day. The problem is I know I must order a dress months in advance, so that it will arrive on time. With this time issue, I'd only have like 2-3 months to lose nearly 100 pounds! What should I do?"
WHAT!! Now, I'm all for getting in shape and feeling great...WHEN IT IS FOR YOU and WHEN ITS FOR YOUR OWN PERSONAL REASONS. Not because others say so! It breaks my heart to see that there are still women who feel the pressure of society when it comes to their weight.
My opinion? Somehow, someway...you must tell your family to back off! You obviously have a partner who loves you just the way you are. So, walk right on in to a bridal shop of your choice with your head held high and get started! :-)
But there's a couple doses of reality that may be a little tough to swallow at first, so let me brief you on them now so that you are prepared for your shopping experience.
1. Yes, there will be model size brides trying on gown after gown (because she can get each and every one of those sample sized gowns on her size 8 body, ugh :-) (I call them "simple sized" because to me, the designers are simply ridiculous to assume that most brides are a size 8. lol)
2. There will probably be a limited supply of plus size gowns to try on.
Now that that's out of the way, on to the positive. There is definitely a dream dress out there for every bride! Remain positive, open-minded and versatile. One style you hadn't even thought of, may in fact be the one for you! Whatever you do, just make sure you pick the style that compliments your figure the most. Concentrate on highlighting your best features and downplaying all others. Do not accentuate the very area that makes you self conscious. Gowns come in many different fabrics. Be sure to choose a fabric that works well for you, for your wedding's theme and also for the season in which you are to marry. Also, choose your undergarments carefully. The undergarments you choose affect the overall look. Invest in supportive items that are of great quality. Don't cheap out in this area. You'll be happier in the long run:-)
Here's an example of a look that is not so flattering:
And here's a few plus size gowns that are figure flattering and in many cases, slimming :
Much better, right?
There are lots of designers who specialize in plus size bridal. Alfred Angelo has a great collection. Browse the collection here.
Remember....it's all about you, your partner, and most importantly the love you share.