(photo courtesy of Dexter Davis Photography & Video)
For those who need a little more guidance, with where you should be and how to get there in regards to your wedding planning, I've included some valuable information below. Keeping things in order, although sometimes tedious, is better off in the long run. This is a day you've worked hard for and now you want to sit back, take it all in, and enjoy, right? So here's how...
Here is a guide to the last 30 days of your wedding planning checklist to get you back on track and relieve some of your stress:
* This would be a good time to apply for your marriage license, if you haven’t already done it. Different localities have different requirements so you and your fiancé need to take a little advance care with this process.
The license is usually issued by the County Clerk or the Clerk of the Court. There will be a fee. Check in advance for the fee and method of payment required. Some states require blood tests and others require tests for German Measles, venereal diseases, sickle-cell anemia, tuberculosis, etc. Become familiar with your state's requirements ahead of time. If having a destination wedding, your Day-of-Coordinator or Planner should research this for you.
* Your dress needs a final fitting now to be sure there’s time to make any changes needed. While you are at it, make sure your bridesmaids and groomsmen have their attire ready to go and there are no issues.
* All your vendors need to be contacted to confirm arrival/delivery dates and times. This includes your caterer, florist, musicians, photographer, hotels, reception hall, minister or other officiate, transportation and hotel reservations and the bakery creating your wedding cake. This should be done by your Day-of-Coordinator or Planner, if you've hired one.
* Take a little time to check your wedding program for accuracy before you print it. Send a future change of address form to the post office. Make a list of those invited guests who have not responded to your request for an RSVP and ask your mother or sister to contact them. As soon as you know how many out-of-town guests you will have, create your welcome baskets for them.
* As soon as you receive gifts, write thank you notes. People consider it bad manners to have to wait months to get thanked for sending a gift.
Two weeks before the big day:
* A couple of weeks before your ceremony, flesh out your seating plan and write your place cards. Confirm any last minute details and tell your caterer how many to expect. Complete your seating chart.
* Pick up your dress and hang it where it won’t wrinkle or get caught on something. Walk around your house wearing your wedding shoes to break them in and make them comfortable for your walk down the aisle.
* Arrange for a house sitter while you are on your honeymoon, if necessary. You might need someone to water your plants or take care of your pets while you are gone.
* Make sure someone has a list of your honeymoon itinerary and contact information in case of an emergency.
* With your fiancé, write toasts for the rehearsal dinner and reception. Attend your bachelor or bachelorette parties and any bridal wedding showers.
The day before:
* Your out-of-town guests will be arriving. Relax with them and make them
comfortable. Personally give them their welcome baskets or have them already in their rooms.
* Take a break and have a manicure, pedicure and maybe a massage.
* Confirm your transportation schedule.
* Attend the rehearsal that afternoon or evening and hold the rehearsal dinner. Give your wedding party their gifts and make sure they know their individual responsibilities, like handing out corsages and boutonnieres, escorting guests down the aisle, etc.
Your wedding day:
(THE DAY I STRONGLY SUGGEST YOU HAVE HIRED A DAY-OF-COORDINATOR FOR. YOU'LL THANK ME FOR IT LATER :-)
* If you didn’t give your parents their wedding gifts at the rehearsal dinner, then do it now.
Follow your wedding planning checklist you have set up for the morning; hair dresser, make up, etc., and you’ll make it just fine to the wedding with everything running fairly smoothly.